Ok... I have been wanting to bitch about this for some time now. So here goes. It is all over SL... in 90% of the profiles you read. Shit... it's even in mine. Go figure.
We all want to keep our RL separate from what we do in SL. Or do we? Is that even possible?
I dont think so... And here is why. Each moment that a part of us is interacting with the virtual world... we are mixing it with the real one. Our eyes... they see what is on the screen. Our fingers... they touch the keyboard and send our thoughts to others. Sometimes when we LOL... we really are.
But here is the big one. The emotions that we express through our avatar... are REAL emotions. Now unless you are hiding behind the roleplay thing, or you just like fucking with other people, those emotions are real. We feel them... we share them. Joy, pain, sorrow, love, lust, anger, frustration... the whole list. They arent generated by a script. They come from inside us.
Where the big problem with this is that there are many in SL that do not think of the other avatars they are interacting with as having feelings. They forget that this is not a "game" to us. This is not totally "pretend". Sure... we do things we would never do in RL, or cannot do... but SL is in fact, an EXTENSION of our real lives. We take time out of real life to spend in Second Life.
And that is where the lines separating RL and SL blur even more. If SL is in fact an extension of our RL's... then by definition, they are inextricably linked. They cannot be separated. Ok... there are things we do not share with other people in both worlds about the other... but that is the case with anything.
I dont talk about everything that happens at home when I am at work. I dont talk about everything that happens at work when I am home. Same for school, groups of friends, etc... etc... etc.. Does that make them SEPARATE? No... it makes them different extensions of the same person's experiences and life. Different aspects.
So lets all get off the "I dont mix SL and RL" soapbox. We usually end up telling quite a bit to the people we get close to anyway.
No... I dont need to know your REAL name. No... I dont need to know what your REALLY look like. And no... you dont need to know any of that about me either.
End Rant...
Just a place for my friends to check in and see what I am up to... you know, the things I enjoy, the things that piss me off, maybe a few of my kinks here and there...those sort of things. There will also be updates about DECADENT and new releases and sales there.
And then there are the "NO DRAMA!" profiles posted by SL's Olympic Class Drama Queens.
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BRAVO! Well said. There are to many people here that think because your a pixel on the screen you don't feel, love and have real attachments. It's easy for some to come here, act like it's a game and not care who they hurt, because they view it as "not real". Those are usually the ones that damage someone the worst. The "oh well, you'll get over it" attitude. For your information, NO!! I will never get over it. Luckily I have somone whos NOT like that now. And you will to someday ! just keep looking and don't get discouraged.
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